Many people wait for circumstances to change before they can change their circumstances. On the other hand, ambitious women often try to force circumstances to change. But both approaches fill you with angst, impatience, and ultimate frustration.
So the question is: Is there a magic way or a secret for changing circumstances with ease and joy? Or is there a simple way to successfully manifest the circumstances that I want?
As always, I say Yes!
And it’s not rocket science – the way is pretty simple. Maybe not so easy at the beginning, but the more your practice, the easier it gets.
So before you try another strategy to get:
- a promotion,
- another job,
- your children to mind you,
- the connection that you really desire with your spouse,
just stop and think about what you talk about, what you think, what you watch, how you feel…
And tune in for the new episode of the Prosperity Approach podcast because I’m sharing the key ingredient to consistently and successfully manifesting (and changing your circumstances in the process).
Let’s dive right in!
What Drama Do You Immerse Yourself In?
Successful manifesting requires a very specific foundation, and there is one main ingredient to successful manifesting that most people are missing.
Ambitious driven women tend to get a little forceful about the things we want, and we start what I call pushing the river. Usually, it sounds like, “I’m not gonna let my circumstances define me!” after which we get into a whole bunch of massive action.
We chose to use matter to change matter in those situations instead of using energy to change matter. It means we sway to the harder way trying to change things by brute force, sheer grit, and determination.
This is soo familiar to me… It was the way I used to change my circumstances for years. And it was exhausting and unfulfilling. I felt like a worn-out rag most of the time because I was not in the proper energy or, more importantly, in the proper state of mind.
And we’ve just come to the key! Changing your state of mind is the key to changing your circumstances. But how do you do that? As I hinted in the beginning – you need to take an honest inventory of your thoughts, feelings, things you talk about…
You need to answer this question frankly: What drama do you immerse yourself in all day long?
Because we’re all addicted to drama, but what drama are you participating in? Are you participating in the drama of doomsday? Or in the drama of infinite possibilities?
These are two experiences and quite the opposite states of mind that produce completely different results.
Manifesting vs. Co-creating
Before anything dramatic happens in your circumstances (in your family, or relationships, or your body…), you need to know that those outer changes don’t matter. What matters are those inner shifts.
You’ve got to shift from one state of being to another to consistently and successfully manifest. Personally, I prefer to talk about co-creating cause manifesting has become a big buzzword that people use when they manifest by default, without understanding what they did.
(They know that they thought about something, forgot about it, and then it happened. But, it’s very hard to stay consistent when you manifest this way.)
However, when you take a step beyond manifesting and become part of a co-creative process, you start getting interested in what you’re doing and why it happens. The process of making your desires come true is leveling up to a systematic and deliberate approach.
In this journey of becoming, creating, and redesigning your reality, it’s crucial that you stay just observant. As I said many times – massive awareness with zero judgment!
An Internal Beat-up Stick
I like to say that women were born with an internal beat-up stick because I think it perfectly describes our tendency to compare ourselves to an ideal person (or an ideal woman, if you will). Of course, we always fall short, and we always will.
However, the fact that we cannot be perfect doesn’t prevent us from pummeling ourselves all day long. That’s why we need awareness and curiosity about what’s going on rather than judgment.
Here I’m talking about self-judgment, which:
- puts us in blame (which is a form of victimhood)
- restricts us from all of our power
- makes us afraid to take risks
- makes us afraid to get wrong and make mistakes
Then Little Miss Perfect comes out in the form of perfectionism. We like to give our excuses more beautiful names, so we say, I’m a perfectionist – as if that’s a really wonderful thing.
Of course, perfectionism makes you aware of the details, and it can be good in the situations when you sign contracts, or in accounting, or when you’re a designer… But I’m not talking about that aspect now.
What do we do with perfectionism? If you resonate as a perfectionist, you probably don’t use it as a tool but as a weapon. Even worse – you weaponize perfectionism against yourself. That’s why you’re giving up doing a thing if it’s not going to be perfect (or even good) the first time.
In this way, perfectionism ruins your chances to grow. So if you want to redesign your reality, it’s important that you stay curious and interested in closing gaps in:
- your thinking, to
- what you’re attracted to,
- the conversations that you like to have
And the formula is great awareness, zero judgment, lots and lots of curiosity.
Using Energy to Change Matter
When I say that you must change your state of mind/consciousness if you want to get out of your current situation, I’m aware that it won’t be easy at the start. But it gets easier and easier the more you practice.
Actually, the thing is quite simple – it’s about understanding that who you are today cannot get you to where you want to go. All of the things that you’ve immersed yourself in have led you right to where you are.
Don’t get me wrong – I’m not saying that your situation is a complete disaster. I’m aware that I’m talking to somebody who’s got pretty darn good life but knows that it can be better.
Women I’m talking to know that they are linchpins. However, they’re not sure how to be the key to turning the lock for getting out of the struggle consciousness and into the ease consciousness.
You have to deliberately prepare your mind to attract ease, success, and redesign. This is what I mean by using energy to change matter. (I heard that from Joe Dispenza and adopted it as my own because I love it.)
We’ve been taught to use matter to change matter, which means:
- to work harder,
- then to work smarter, not harder,
- then to adopt tactics and strategies to analyze everything
Yeah, you can get your circumstances to change this way. But that journey is arduous, filled with many potholes and much fear.
However, when you use energy to change matter, you stop micromanaging the journey and start loving it because you start understanding how enormously powerful you are and how much incredible influence you have to change your circumstances.
Redesign Your Reality
As we said, it’s time to start preparing yourself by taking your inventory and then shifting. Just make nice little shifts, and your spirit will say, Thank you for getting all this dirt and crud off of us. Because light is so much easier to carry than darkness.
And the lightness of expansion, peace, optimism, and joyful expectation gives you more energy than the darkness of doubt, disbelief, and impatience. So, the key here is not to change anything except you and how you feel.
And that’s the start to redesigning your reality and becoming a masterful co-creator!
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