We live in a society of victims. Some of us play the blame game by pointing our mess to others. Some people suck up all the blame and remain miserable victims. You can’t live in prosperity and victimhood at the same time! They’re two different approaches to life, and they’ll never line up. Victimhood never leads to prosperity.
So how exactly do we stop being a victim?
A Society of Victims
More than ever before, we are in a society of victims. The interesting part is that you can be a very positive person but still embody all the symptoms of a victim-thinker. I’m guilty myself! As I’ve gotten older, I realized that being a victim is the polar opposite of a prosperous life.
There are only two true victims in this world – children and animals. Children are powerless and are not at the right age to voice out, while animals are completely voiceless and in no control. Perhaps we have had an instance of feeling victimized as children. Or maybe you have had a more traumatizing childhood. Either way, you were a victim to any oppression you experienced as a child.
But as adults, we need to identify the fine line that differentiates being a victim and a volunteer. Sometimes, we start in a relationship as victims. But if we keep staying and hurting in an abusive relationship, we cross the line of being a volunteer.
You’re NOT A Powerless Victim
If you are under the victimhood mindset, it is imperative that you change that. Here’s the biggest reason why: There is no such thing as a rich victim. Living like a victim and living in prosperity are two things that will never co-exist. They are both different experiences that lead to vastly different results.
The reason why getting out of victim-thinking is difficult is because it’s hard to do, but even harder to spot for some.
Another interesting thing about people is that we often wear powerlessness as a badge of honor. It’s not something we should keep up or maintain, but we tend to stay in victimhood and tell the world how miserable we are.
If you are waiting for conditions and circumstances to change, then you may be unconsciously playing the victim. I didn’t mean that it in a negative note, so stay with me here! Here’s an incredible truth that every human being should know: You have enormous power and influence over your circumstances.
The only thing that you need to change so you can change your circumstances is yourself and your mindset. If you use your thoughts for you and not against you, the unbelievable start to happen.
The problem is that society has imprinted in us that the answers are not found inside of us. We are told that we have to patiently wait for our spouses to change, our children to change, or the government to change. Right now, how many of us feel like we need to wait on the pandemic to disappear before we can move forward and change?
The scary part of feeling voting-thinking is that you don’t want to be powerless but it’s a very addicting place to be. We like to say that the series of unfortunate events in our lives are caused by other people. That could be true, but you don’t have to stay in that sad and resentful place if you choose to.
If you’ve been spoonfed the concept of scarcity and lack in your whole life, that isn’t your fault. But whether you stay there or not is already your responsibility. You need to allow yourself to heal and move on from them.
Getting Out of Victim-thinking
Years ago, I created the biggest financial apocalypse in our family. I made bad business decisions, worked with people who can’t be trusted and invested in the wrong places. It’s easy to put the blame on them, and that’s exactly what I did at first.
But it didn’t have to be long until I started beating myself up in the long and dreary blame game. I was drenched in victim-thinking while endlessly blaming myself! I can’t magnify even more how cruel my thoughts were. I hated myself for causing my family so much pain and inconvenience – my self-blame was brutal to my soul.
I reached a point where enough was enough. I got so tired of the endless chatter that came in my head that chanted the same thing day and night – “I am the world’s biggest loser!” Do you know what I said aloud to end it all?
“Alright, I created this – but I didn’t mean to.”
The most profound truth about this that I hope would resonate with you, is that sometimes we create an awesomely huge mess without meaning it. Think of it as a character from a fantasy novel who just discovered that she had the power of fire or ice. Maybe at the first few attempts, she would burn an entire house or freeze an entire village without meaning to. But after harnessing that power in a more intentional way, the mess and mistakes gradually reduce until she masterfully uses it for more heroic things. She finally stops being the victim!
That was how it changed for me. The day I took the responsibility for my circumstances is the day I took charge of my life. Create a way out of it because you can.
Law of Utilization
A powerful universal law that we can all use as a tool is the law of utilization. This law tells us that “everything happens for a reason and that reason is to assist you.”
Sadly, people succumb to this version instead: “Everything happens for a reason and that reason is that I’m an idiot or I’m not good enough.” I totally understand that as I’ve been in that deep and dark place not too long ago.
But when you truly learn to utilize the pieces of your situations, both the good and bad, it leads to manifestation. Check out other universal laws that make the journey beautiful!
Abuse. Neglect. Emotional abandonment. Scarcity thinking. Depravation. All of these things happen for a reason and the reason is to assist you.
We can either rise from the negative experiences and use them as fuel to become even better people, or we can use these traumas as excuses to stay in that horrible place. People like to call those excuses as “reasons,” but until you never break free from those shackles, you are carrying excuses.
Stop Being a Victim Today
God and the universe love you so much that you can’t ascend to the next level until you are ready for it. We either learn the lessons or we will be taught them. Don’t you think it’s easier to learn the lessons than wait for God to teach us a lesson?
You can’t get to success without the struggle if you stay in the zone of victim-thinking. Take ownership in your part of the creation and everything will change. It can be tough to step out of victimhood especially if you’re doing it alone – so I invite you to do it with an entire community of people in the same journey instead!
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