Are You Using Gratitude Correctly?

Back when I lived a life of lack and scarcity, I came across this concept of gratitude bringing more into your life. Marci Shimoff said, “Gratitude is absolutely the way to bring more into your life.” So I decided to try it.

I’d say all these things I was grateful for, and look around for things to change.

Nothing changed.

So I’d say some more things I was grateful for, wondering when things would change, asking why they hadn’t changed yet, and feeling more and more frustrated. I was using this whole gratitude thing like they said: why weren’t things changing?

It wasn’t until I started putting my life back together after my brother died that I realized why gratitude had never really changed things for me. I had been using gratitude as a means to an end, instead of letting gratitude BE the end.

I wasn’t actually feeling grateful. I was declaring it, sure, but I was still looking around at all the lack! I hadn’t connected to the vibration of gratitude. I was still connected to the vibration of lack.

It wasn’t until I stopped looking at the lack and instead focused on everything around me I was grateful for, that things started to shift. And I had to stay in gratitude for several months before the physical shifting happened. But that was okay, because I was shifting. I could feel that.

If you’re saying what you’re grateful for, but not really feeling it, you will have a very difficult time bringing prosperity into your life. Start small. Be grateful for frozen food (if that’s what you’re eating), a beautiful sky, running water, a roof over your head (even if it’s sagging and your home is badly in need of repair), internet access! The fact that you can read and write, any amount of money that’s coming in…you get the picture.

Let gratitude be the end, and see how you begin to change!

10 thoughts on “Are You Using Gratitude Correctly?”

  1. Excellent advice, Allyson!

    Every morning when I plant my two feet on the floor and still sit on the bed, I say out loud – whispering is probably more accurate – “Thank you God for a wonderful life!”

    And life is still wonderful!

    With Love,
    Knut

  2. Thank you Allyson for this article. I, too, have said “why isn’t this working?” And, I know that I focus more on lack than what I am grateful for. Thanks for the reminder and letting me know that it will change, the more I feel grateful.

    Blessings,
    Joan

  3. Beautiful !!! I am totally guilty of “means to an end” awareness. Im done now with lack and impatience. Eyes and hear wide open ;))

  4. Thank you for all you do I have been following you fo some time now and i really do appreciate your giving to me and pointing m in the. Right direction thank you.

  5. Thank you Cheri! You are welcome. I am so happy that I could point you in the right direction. Take care and lots of love to you!

  6. Thank you Rosanne! Eyes and heart wide open is a beautiful surrender. You will be more aware of how truly blessed and wonderful your life really is right now. Best wishes to you in starting your use of daily gratitude. Lots of love to you!

  7. You’re welcome Joan. Thanks for reading! Truly feeling is where it starts. Lot’s of love to you!

  8. Thank you Knut! I love that. It’s amazing to see how wonderful our lives really are when we are truly grateful. Great work, keep it up! Lots of love to you!

  9. Last year I had a strange feeling things were not going as I desired, so I began to change my attitude to one that no matter what somehow it was being guided. Then even tho things were really rotten I just relaxed, remained positive and looked for some joy, even if only seeing clouds or insects working hard. Suddenly this autumn tho it required a huge shift in situation I accepted the challenge and my life was given a new lease, then despite letting go of many precious things and friends, now what I need materially seems to arrive at reasonable prices or if it’s a connection, just on time.

  10. Wow, Jane! Thanks for sharing that. I love that you stayed committed to your new attitude before things shifted, and even when it was difficult. That’s what it takes for things to shift. Way to use gratitude correctly. How fun for you to reap the benefits!

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