It’s easy to “stay happy” when you’re on top of the world. But how do you find joy when you suddenly fall and find yourself facing the darkest time in your life? When you hear what seems to be the worst news of the decade, you either crumble and throw a fit or you “man up.” But is this the best way to combat the tough times?
How exactly should women express their negative emotions when they are at their most vulnerable? I’ll be sharing how you can find joy through the misunderstood path of despair and come out even happier and stronger.
Release Your Emotions
There are seasons in your life that call out for a fifteen-minute loud crying over the pillow or a day of stillness while you crumble. When things get too tough for us, we tend to suppress our anger, despair, or sorrow. But we don’t do that, and here’s why: it has become socially unacceptable to look too vulnerable!
Do we “man up?” Often, we do! And that that’s tricky to execute for women because it cuts us off from our divine nature. A woman is not supposed to “man up” when she’s supposed to express her emotions in a healthy way.
When grief or despair becomes large-scale, you need to dive into the energy of the solution, not the energy of despair. You’re in a place where you’re not called out for navigating pleasure or pressure. This is now all about feeling and releasing those negative emotions!
Falling While You’re On Top Of The World
I have big goals and big dreams, just like you. I remember years ago when I felt like I was on top of the world as my business started taking off. I made more money in one day than I ever had in my entire life! You can imagine how exciting that was in my career. But as you’re guessing right now, a dark plot twist was waiting for me on that same day.
From a massive high to a sudden shatter – that’s what it felt when I heard the bad news. I heard about the betrayal that went on from some of my children. I felt the earth stop and everything dissolved around me. I was drowning in so much rage and grief! The new reality was too much to accept, but then I knew two things: First, my family demanded my attention. Second, that my negative emotions demanded my attention, too.
Feel What You Gotta Feel
We don’t allow ourselves to stay vulnerable, do we? We skip the emotions of grief and skip right into survival mode. But you must acknowledge and feel those emotions! Take your time and feel what you have to feel for the moment.
I remember allowing myself to stew in my anger and despair. I was so angry at my daughter, even if I reminded myself repeatedly that I also had to love her. When you’re absorbed with so much outrage, that can be hard to do! My husband handled most of the things that we needed to arrange due to their wrong decisions while I was numbing out in constant frustration.
“I feel like my world has just ended.”
This was my text message to my husband the next day, and he immediately replied something that mended my heart just a little bit. He texted back, “Maybe it has, but maybe this is the start of a beautiful beginning.”
And that’s when I thought… Perhaps there are stars in here.
I had released enough of my outrage that I was suddenly ready to look up and look for the stars in the impossibly dark night.
Don’t Deny Your Negative Emotions
You’re in a dark space, and that’s okay. Reset and use those negative emotions to add fuel to that flame. But don’t let the bad days disconnect you forever from your visions! The bad days would disconnect you for a while because you need to halt to heal completely.
Find the good in every situation. Maybe you won’t see it easily. Sometimes, you have got to wipe your tears after bawling your eyes out, then carry on and resume looking for that one beautiful thing somewhere in that ugly picture.
Bottom Line
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