I’ve never met anyone who hasn’t been a victim at one point in their life or another. We do spend some time being victimized as children, simply because as children we really don’t have any power in our lives.
But truly miraculous people don’t stay in the energy and mindset of being a victim. What I’ve noticed in my work that having a mediocre mindset and a miracle mindset makes a world of difference in how quickly and easily you create miracles. And one trait of a mediocre mindset is blame.
We blame our parents.
We blame our spouse.
We blame the economy.
We blame the government.
We even blame ourselves.
And though we’ve all had situations where we allowed ourselves to be victimized, there reaches a point when we get to take responsibility and move on.
Take responsibility for being the victim? What the heck?!
Stay with me. And let me tell you a story.
There were two brothers. They grew up with an alcoholic father. One brother grew up to become an alcoholic. When asked why he replied, “What did you expect? I grew up with an alcoholic father.” The other brother grew up and never touched alcohol. When asked why he replied, “What did you expect? I grew up with an alcoholic father.”
This is a beautiful example of the difference between the mediocre mindset of blame and the miracle mindset of taking responsibility and doing something about it.
Neither of those brothers could do anything about their alcoholic father growing up. But as adults they COULD take responsibility and decide whether that experience was going to keep them stuck, or learn the lessons from it and move forward. One went from victim to volunteer (victim as the child and volunteer victim as an adult) while the other went from victim to victorious!
People who create miracles take responsibility for their own healing, even and especially when the trauma was caused by someone else. You cannot make miracles when you live in blame. But the beauty is that YOU get to decide if you’re going to play in mediocre thinking or in miracle thinking. It’s as easy as a choice. Here’s to you making the better choice!