Sounds ridiculous, doesn’t it? Whoever heard of using doubt and fear to be successful? Is there even anything redeeming about either of these two things?
A little. There is always a little bit of fear– or A LOT of fear– when you try something new. There is really no way around that. Fear is a good indicator that you’re stretching your comfort zone. And we’ve all heard about how the magic happens just OUTSIDE of your comfort zone.
Here’s a fear tip I learned from one of my mentors: I was scared about how I was going to afford to be able to work with her. On one hand I felt peaceful, but on the other hand I was terrified. She told me, “When I feel that heart tug and a huge wave of fear, it means it’s going to get amazingly good, if I step forward.” The fear is always louder in the beginning, but the quiet heart tug is the path that leads you to the magic.
Doubt is simply the language fear uses to speak to you. And we are all fluent in doubt, because we hear it almost daily and it’s such a loud, persuasive language! The heart tug or inspiration is much more subtle in its invitation, and it speaks the quiet language of peace. It will always be more quiet than fear, and if you follow and trust it, it will always lead you to the magic.
You’ve followed the voices of fear and doubt enough to know that they lead away from success. I invite you to use those things as tools and do the direct opposite of what they’re telling you. Try walking down the road of peace and inspiration as far as it will take you. You’ll be dazzled and delighted by where you end up!
If this resonates with you, feel free to comment below.
I love the thought of using fear and doubt to move me closer to what I want. Brilliant Allyson!
I’ve always thought of fear as a negative, but your mentor has given it a different perspective! Love it!
Stepping outside of your comfort zone is such a good thing… growing up most of us were taught to play it safe… but really playing it safe gets you nowhere!
I love this article Allyson.
I’ve always looked at fear as an illusion, because after I step toward the fear I find there was nothing to be fearful of. I just lacked the awareness I needed in that particular situation. Great article Allyson.
I’ve heard that as far as the nervous system is concerned nervousness/fear is felt the same as excitement. So when I’m stretching myself and am feeling “nervous” I assume it’s actually just excitement in becoming more.
I also agree with Ed. When I look my fears in the eye and really analyze them I find they are merely mirages and they dissipate.
Thanks Elena. I appreciate your feedback.
Thanks Judy. Hopefully that puts a positive spin on things we really try to run away from.
Thanks Julie. My mentor has a gift for helping me see things from a healthier, more empowering position.
Thanks Ed. That’s a great way to look at fear!
Great way to look at anxiety, Regina! I love that you assume it’s something great and not something to dread.