Can Gratitude Make You Wealthy?

Infinite GratitudeMy 2016 was filled with so much joy, so much fear, so many opportunities, and so many disappointments for me. How about you? I’m truly grateful for the fear and disappointments I experienced, because at the end of the year I decided that I had one job and one job only: to get on the frequency of gratitude, and stay there no matter what.

Most people think they’re connected to gratitude because they have a big list of things they’re grateful for, but gratitude is a lot more than that. It’s a literal frequency, a vibration, and once you connect with it and stay connected, it has the ability to create some pretty massive miracles in your life. Gratitude ranks up there with joy and love, which are the highest vibrations available to us.

Just listing a bunch of things you’re grateful for doesn’t make you a grateful person. How many times have you rolled your eyes (either figuratively or literally) and “counted your blessings,” and yet you still felt disconnected, unsupported, lonely, broke and sick? Yeah, you weren’t connected to gratitude in that moment.

Before the year ended I made a commitment to myself to connect with gratitude every day and stay there no matter what. I decided I was a “whatever it takes, no matter what” kind of person where gratitude was concerned, and began practicing what Pam Grout calls in her book “Thank and Grow Rich” “militant gratitude.”

It’s already had a profound affect in my life.

Worry and gratitude do not exist on the same frequency. So, when I’m feeling worried, anxious, fearful or upset, I know right in that moment I’m not connected, and do whatever it takes to let go of that lower vibration to raise to the higher vibration of gratitude.

Please understand: this is NOT “Wow, my life is a crap hole but I’m so grateful for it” kind of thinking. Even if your life does feel like a crap hole right now (that sounds so crass, but it’s what keeps coming to mind—perhaps because you can relate to it?), getting on the gratitude frequency requires that you look into that mess and find the blessings in it. Find what IS working in your life. They’re there, but you have to look for them.

When you can lock on those blessings and focus only on those, the gifts in the situation, and what you WANT to experience, your vibration will raise. You’ll begin to connect to gratitude. And in that moment, you’ll be sending out a literal vibration into the universe that starts changing your circumstances! Seriously. You’re influencing your future in that moment that you’re really feeling that vibration of gratitude. You’re also influencing your future for more of the same when you wallow in despair, frustration or anxiety.

Is it hard to do? Sometimes. But once you learn to do it, you’ll feel stable no matter what is going on, you’ll begin to have deeper trust in yourself and your Higher Power in your ability to create the life you desire, and you’ll grow faster than you ever imagined! When you can really see the big picture of what’s going on inside you (and outside you) based on your thoughts, you can apply the simple process to detecting where you are and where you want to be, and very logically connect to the frequency you desire, and then let the universe do the rest. This is a universal principle that you can bank on every single time you want to change your circumstances.

Later this week I’ll post a video that goes into more detail, and the inspired idea that came to me in Costco! This idea, if implemented, WILL change your life to the degree you allow it to. I can’t wait to share more with you!

Until then, be aware of how often you FEEL grateful, peaceful and happy during the day versus how often you feel anxious, worried or upset. It’s a BIG clue to the direction your life will go.

P.S. to answer the question “Can gratitude make you wealthy?” the answer is Yes! And I’ll show you how soon.

 

5 Tips for Making and Achieving New Year’s Resolutions

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The beginning of the new year is often a time for new beginnings in our own lives. The New Year gives us the sense of a clean slate, a chance to start again, or begin something new. There is that feeling that a fresh start is possible and it’s one of the reasons that so many people start the year with resolutions–to try and motivate themselves towards positive change moving forward.

Even as we sit down and make that list of New Year’s resolutions, we know many of them will be forgotten and abandoned by the end of February. There are many reasons why that happens, even with the best of intentions. But whatever the reason, we set our resolutions aside for a day, or a week, or a month until next New Year’s Eve comes around and we’re still in the same place without having made any progress.

But I have some tips for you that are going to help you set some realistic New Year’s resolutions, remove some of the stress around them, and keep you motivated to achieve them. So if you are ready to set yourself up for a year of achievement, read on!

Think about what you really want to do. Don’t make resolutions based on what you (or others) think that you ‘should’ do. Many people start by thinking in terms of what they should stop doing, rather than what they actually want to achieve. To be successful at any change, you need to really want it. So take time to consider what you really want or you’re going not going to be committed to your goal. Successful resolutions start with a strong commitment to make a change for yourself, not for others.

Don’t focus so much on giving something up. For example, more than a third of people in a recent survey indicated that they wanted to ‘get healthy’ in the new year. Many of them phrased the actual resolution as ‘lose weight’, ‘give up sugar’, ‘cut carbs’, ‘no more desserts’ or some other phrase that involves depriving or limiting themselves. Instead, try focusing on adding specific positive behaviors or alternatives that are enjoyable; such as ‘add leafy greens to my meals 3 times a week’, ‘add a meal/fitness app to my phone and use it daily’, ‘find a good protein shake that I like and enjoy it for breakfast’, or ‘take a walk in my neighborhood after dinner on Monday, Thursday, and Saturday’. You’ll likely see progress towards ‘getting healthy’, without the stress of depriving yourself. But more importantly because your mindset isn’t focused on scarcity or lack, you may find it more motivating.

Believe in yourself, and surround yourself with others who do too. To succeed at any goal you must believe that you can accomplish what you set out to achieve. I’ve talked about this, and the types of fear that keep us from achieving our goals, in many of my webinars and events. Anxiety, self-doubt, and fear are lies that can try to keep us from success. But the faith and belief we have in ourselves is going to be what sees us achieve our goals. While that success is based on the support you give yourself, it can be bolstered by the friends and family that support you. Write your resolution down and put it where you’ll see it throughout the year, then share your resolution with those you can trust to help hold you accountable.

Be realistic and make a plan. Some goals require more planning and thought than others. Go ahead and make a few simpler goals that you know you’re not going to have too much difficulty achieving. It’s nice to have a few ‘wins’ throughout the year. But keep in mind that your bigger goals are going to take time and effort. If your goal is ‘go to the gym’, don’t just buy a gym membership and show up a few times; add your planned gym visits to your appointment calendar for the entire year, and keep them. If your goal is to visit Hawaii, don’t just hope and wish for it to happen; make a budget to save and make a plan for how you’re going to get there and what you’re going to do when you arrive. If your goal is to build your business, improve your relationships, get a promotion, reconnect with an old friend, or  learn something new,  you are going to need to make a plan. If you already had the information, resources, experience, time, and money you needed to achieve these goals, you would have already, right?

Do something you love to do, and that you do best, every single day. You don’t have to make this a New Year’s resolution, but I recommend it. Doing something just for you every single day is powerful, especially if you spend more of your day occupied with the needs of others. Relax, reflect, read a book, write in a journal, listen to music, putter around the garden, or do any other activity that’s different from what you already do all day long. Resolve to set aside time for something you love and I know that it will make you happier, more motivated, and more productive in everything you do.

May your New Year’s resolutions help you make this year your best year ever.
Be good to yourself this year.

Gift Giving Ideas That REALLY Matter

It’s easy to get caught up in the idea that gift giving means spending money. Perhaps your holiday routine includes a trip, or ten, to the local big box store. Or perhaps a visit to a local arts and craft market. Or maybe even a few clicks online, and your shopping list is delivered to your door. A few hours of your time, and a few dollars, and it’s done.

But the gifts that REALLY matter, come from the heart.

THE GIFT OF LISTENING . . .
But you must REALLY listen. No interrupting, no daydreaming, no planning your response. Just listening.

THE GIFT OF AFFECTION . . .
Be generous with appropriate hugs, kisses, pats on the back and handholds. Let these small actions demonstrate the love you have for family and friends. Some times you just have to ask if someone wants a hug. Some times you have to ask if they need one.

THE GIFT OF LAUGHTER . . .
Clip cartoons. Share articles and funny stories. Your gift will say, “I love to laugh with you.” A friend and her sister regularly share postcards from their travels filled with jokes or puns about the locations they have visited. Another friend and his mother lovingly complete over who can find the ‘worst’ picture postcard while on vacations.

THE GIFT OF A WRITTEN NOTE . . .
Buy a bunch of blank notecards and write your own message. It can be a simple “Thanks for the help” note or a full sonnet. A brief, handwritten note may be remembered for a lifetime, and may even change a life. Don’t know what to write? Save poems, jokes, photos, quotes, and stories that you like and keep them handy. The minute you take to write something personal takes far less time than sifting through pre-printed cards–and it’s more meaningful and cheaper too. There are families where the written notes between grand-parents or even great-grand-parents have become treasured heirlooms.

THE GIFT OF A COMPLIMENT . . .
A simple and sincere, “You look great in red,” “You did a super job” or “That was a wonderful meal” can make someones day. There are also often unappreciated accomplishments that you can recognize. Know someone with a small child who is always on time? Or someone who works two jobs and still makes time to help others? Or perhaps someone you know who volunteers time to a good cause? Those are all things worthy of praise, and it doesn’t cost anything to recognize that and give it.

THE GIFT OF A FAVOR . . .
Every day, go out of your way to do something kind. Some people have a hard time asking for, and receiving favors. Pay attention though, and you’re sure to notice some way that you can help make life easier. Pick up kids from school, give a ride to the airport, grab an extra gallon of milk at the store to save a trip, take in the empty trash cans on garbage day, shovel their sidewalk after the snow storm.

THE GIFT OF SOLITUDE . . .
There are times when we want nothing better than to be left alone. Be sensitive to those times and give the gift of solitude to others. The gift below is also something that can be great for single parents.

THE GIFT OF TOGETHERNESS…
We all know couples with children, who are occasionally overwhelmed. Consider offering to watch their kids for an evening, so they can have an evening of free time alone together. That’s an amazing gift – and it comes from being a caring friend, not from being a department store shopper.

THE GIFT OF A CHEERFUL DISPOSITION . . .
The easiest way to feel good is to extend a kind word to someone, really it’s not that hard to say, Hello or Thank You. Friends are a very rare jewel, indeed. They make you smile and encourage you to succeed. They lend an ear, they share a word of praise, and they always want to open their hearts to us.

A gentle reminder — that the most precious things in life cannot be built by hand or bought by man.

 


And I want to offer you a gift, too.

We’re heading into the last stretch of 2016. I hope you accomplished everything you set out to do, achieved your goals, and made this year the best one yet. But if it didn’t turn out quite the way you hoped, I’d like to offer you something that might help.

giftI’m opening up my calendar this week for a limited number of free 60-minute private mentoring calls to anyone who feels they could benefit from it.
http://allysonchavez.com/creationcall

We’ll sit down together over the phone (or Skype if you’re outside of the US or Canada) and clear any blocks that have popped up this year, get you connected to your vision for 2017, and create a plan of action for you to rock it out next year!

I’ve never done anything like this before, but it feels so good to offer this to you, I’m going to go for it! Consider this my Christmas present to you. There are 2 types of people in this world: those who will receive and those who won’t. Which one will you be? If you are the type that will receive, simply click HERE to pull up my online scheduler. Let’s connect!

Getting Through The Holidays Without Killing Your Loved Ones

For those of you in the U.S., we’re gearing up for Thanksgiving this Thursday and full-fledged holiday mayhem following directly after. This is a fabulous time of year, but also an incredibly stressful time as we navigate work and school schedules, parties, and most of all…family!

My parents are so in love with their schedules that when they say Thanksgiving dinner starts at 2, if you arrive at 2:10 you’ve missed it. Everything is structured just so, even down to the order we line in up in to get our food! (over 70 first, then grandparents, then parents, then it’s a free-for-all). We have over 30 people who come to Thanksgiving dinner, so it makes sense. But still…what makes them insist on this?

My brother lives to be spontaneous, so you can imagine how resistant he’s been to my insistence that after Thanksgiving dinner we sit down and actually plan the multi-family Disneyland vacation coming up in February. (He loves to whine at me, “That’s just so far away! Why do we need to plan it now?”) He’s always been like this, but why does he tick this way?

I just want everyone to get along, and in the past I’ve pleaded with my brother to just keep the peace and not rock the boat during the holidays. Sometimes my family has hated each other’s guts, and I just want our guts to be friends!

And my son doesn’t enjoy making small talk or all the hugs, and after dinner we usually find him in the car, reading a book or playing his video games, because all that chaos is just too much for him. He’s done this since he was a small child, buckling himself in and happy to be alone until we were ready to go.

I’ve learned a fascinating new methodology called B.A.N.K., which is based in personality science. What makes B.A.N.K. unique is that it can actually predict people’s behavior based on what their “code” is.

You’ve taken a personality assessment before, right? Of course you have! Virtually everyone on this planet has. What makes B.A.N.K. unique is that once you crack your “code” you can crack others’ codes to see what makes them tick, and by knowing how they’re wired, you can have a greater understanding and appreciation for why your loved ones and boss and coworkers are the way they are.

Why would you care, you ask? Because if you know someone else’s code and how to speak that code,               AQ        you have a better connection with that person, and if you’re someone who is in sales (whether it’s commission based, you own your own business, or you sell for someone else), B.A.N.K. has been proven to predict buying behavior, allowing you to increase your sales up to 300% in less than 90 seconds! *San Francisco University, whitepaper, 2016

If you’d like to know more, be sure to read Part II on this fascinating methodology next week. I’m also hosting a free webinar in the next two weeks to explain how it works and how to crack your code. I’ll even give you a link where YOU can take the 90 second assessment and crack your own code for free!

YES! I want to know more about B.A.N.K. Sign me up for the free webinar!

Until then, save a little room for pumpkin pie, and don’t roll your eyes at your Uncle Earl who wants to tell you every single detail of the latest statistics he’s read on money spent on video games for consoles vs. PC’s (consoles are a lot higher, btw.) He’s just a K, and it’s part of his code!

Be sure to read next week, when I share what B.A.N.K. did for my relationship with my son, and what learning BANK can mean for YOU! Happy Thanksgiving!

Increase Your Manifesting

frequencyLooking for more tools to help your manifesting? It’s important to me to arm my students with tools that will help them to stay in a high vibration every day. Because I know that the only difference between where you are, and where you want to be, is your frequency.

Einstein said, “Everything is energy and that’s all there is to it. Match your frequency with the reality you want, and you cannot help but get that reality. It can be no other way. This is not philosophy. This is physics.

So, how do you DO that? Match your frequency, that is?

One of the first things I teach in Miracle Academy is the process of pivoting, learned from Abraham-Hicks.

“Anytime you feel negative emotion, stop and say: something is important here; otherwise, I would not be feeling this negative emotion. What is it that I want? And then simply turn your attention to what you do want…In the moment you turn your attention to what you want, the negative attraction will stop; and in the moment the negative attraction stops, the positive attraction will begin. And—in that moment—your feeling will change from not feeling good to feeling good. That is the process of pivoting.”

The reason this works is due to the Law of Attention (or the Law of Focus): Energy flows where attention goes. If you focus on the obstacle, you will only get the obstacle. So, if you shift your attention to what you WANT to feel, this law will kick in and help you to focus on what you want, not on what you don’t want. This is one of the many laws of co-creation we discuss in Miracle Academy.

There is a caveat to this, however: in the moment, you will not FEEL like you want to pivot. You won’t FEEL like getting out of the negative emotion. But that’s when it’s MOST crucial to pivot. As you do what you don’t feel like doing, you strengthen your commitment to what you do want and train your mind to work FOR you instead of against you. And the more you practice pivoting, the easier it will become!

Interested in learning what Miracle Academy is all about?

Visit the Miracle Academy page for the details, as well as some irresistible limited time offers, and my amazing guarantee! Take advantage of this opportunity while you can!

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