A little while ago I wrote about a conversation I had with a colleague, when she told me, “Oh, get over yourself and get back to work.” Though at first that comment stung, I realized she was absolutely right: I was letting the “small version” of me run the show. You know, the small side of you that says it’s scary, you won’t succeed, it won’t make a difference, you don’t have anything to offer?
Yeah, I’ve got one of those too. (Her favorite thing to say to me these days is that I don’t have anything of value to offer anyone, even though I currently have a six figure company. When I first started my company, she told me all day long that I’d lead my family to financial ruin. See what a liar that small side of you is? It will say anything to keep you where you are. No matter what you do, ignore its advice!)
But I was speaking with another colleague the other day (do you see here the importance of surrounding yourself with other successful people, people actively and intentionally paying the price to create what they want? They’re crucial to have around!), and she framed it in a different way.
What she said to me immediately connected me to my power and my ability to choose, instead of making me wrong.
She said, “Are you willing to take yourself on? Are you willing to challenge those dark whispers and thoughts of scarcity, the shame and guilt and fear that wants you to stay right where you are? When those thoughts hit, take yourself on!”
Everyone hates to be wrong. The phrase, “get over yourself” implies that you’ve done something wrong, and we affix judgment to that. We all do waaaay too much self-judgment, self-criticizing and self-loathing as it is to add one more thing on the list to “fix.”
So, my challenge to you this week is to just take yourself on. When the fear wants to take over (and it always does), take yourself on and refuse to listen to it. Turn away from the “what if (insert disastrous scenario here)” and focus on the higher, better feeling thoughts of possibility. What if it works?!
Thank you Allyson, I will do just that. This is the perfect week to get over myself, and be the best version of me!
Many thanks Allyson. Its great advice and I certainly need it this week. I am doing a talk on Health & Wellbeing on Thursday 23rd June, and I need to be the best version of me.
You’re welcome, Shelley! Way to take yourself on. That’s a fantastic topic to speak about. How did it go? I’m sure you did an amazing job!
Woo hoo! Way to take yourself on. I’m so excited for you!! I hope you had an enjoyable time!